My clients want to have relationships, but they also want to be 100% certain that they won’t get hurt. For emotional self-protection they tend to seek situations that offer controllable intimacy, which is an oxymoron. Emotional intensity, over which you can feel some control, is not the same as genuine closeness. Being vulnerable enough to allow [...]
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Sex in Silicon Valley Part II: Is Being Single In SF Really That Bad?
I recently received an email from a friend (we are going to call her X as she would like to remain anonymous) asking for my opinion on her blog/ manifesto “Why SF Really Is That Bad,” her assessment of being a single woman in San Francisco and the social dynamics of Silicon Valley. Upon reading it, [...]
Hot, Tipsy and Single in Tahoe: Le Chamois aka Marina North Apres Ski
Hitting the snow is always a blast but it only gets better when you have a super-fun bar to hit for Apres. Le Chamois, aka “The Chammy” (pronounced sham-ee) is the favored watering hole of the SF weekend exodus to Tahoe. Nestled in an alcove in Squaw, this “loft” bar has two floors (for when [...]
Manhunting Chronicles: Taco Tuesdays
$2 tacos? Check. $2 Coronas? Check. Dudes? Most likely. With the appeal of cheap, drippy man food and even cheaper brews Taco Tuesdays have all the ingredients for a buffet of men ripe for the picking. Our intrepid SF reporter decided to test this theory— her conclusions (and some do’s and dont’s) will help you [...]
‘Tis the Season to Be Single
By Kate Kudish Fa la la la la, la la la LAH! Ever since I can remember, the time surrounding the holiday season induced a desperate yearning for a significant other, or sig-oth, according to the shit girls say. The sentiment of swapping meaningful gifts, going to his house for Christmas morning in my pajamas, [...]
Why I Love Being Single for the Holidays
Let it be known: the Holidays are the most joyous time of year. Despite any personal or worldly issues, the Holidays inspire moments of reflection filled with gratitude for all that we have. The things that really matter are never material of course, but people and experiences that mold us and give us all a [...]
Yuppie Debate: The “Plight” of Single Women
By Nora Bass Are married people better than single people? In Monday’s New York Times, writer Tara Parker-Pope reminds us that it’s National Single and Unmarried Americans Week (Seriously? A week just seems excessive) and suggests that single people are not given the same legal and financial benefits as those who are married, and, as a [...]
Guys on Girls: Interview with a New York Bachelor
Vixely loves hearing it straight from the horse’s mouth (so to speak) as to what guys really like—and don’t like—about girls. Even when we vehemently disagree with their opinions or find their responses on the obnoxious side (So you’re saying you’re basically looking for a mute fitness instructor? Move along, please.), we do appreciate their [...]
“A Little Sugar In Our Bowl”
I was a little surprised when I read Erica Jong’s article Is Sex Passe? from the Sunday New York Times claiming that passionate sex is dead. Jong, who is perhaps most famous for her 1973 book Fear of Flying (a novel that, among other things, coined the term “zipless fuck”), writes that because younger generations grew up with mothers unburdened by [...]
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