I hear from a lot of women that getting in the mood is not always easy, particularly on workdays. They have a hard time mentally letting go of work stress. They are busy with work and yoga and life. When they get home at night, the idea of getting hot and heavy with a wanting partner is the furthest thing from their mind—yoga pants, fro-yo and a mindless episode of “Real Housewives” seems all they can manage.
After talking with a particularly troubled girlfriend about this dilemma, I did some serious thinking. What could help set the mood for sex that is easy, relaxing and accessible?
Then, I got my inspiration: I was at a food and wine festival recently with an awesome, soulful jazz group playing when a guy friend said to me, “This is total baby making music.” Why, yes, it was. Baby. Making. Music. The perfect cure for a weekday sex lull!
Incidentally, this is also the tool every frat boy mastered in college to get you in the mood. Those guys would spend hours pouring over their selections, resulting in a playlist full of sexy songs that some Beta would use to set the tone for the evening, taking your major make-out session from first base to a homerun. They were onto something…
Here’s how you bring mood music into real life (in my mind at least, you tweak it however you like). You arrive at home and begin your usual routine. When the time hits that you normally zone out into “Gretchen and Vicky,” instead of turning on the television, you turn on the sound system. Sit, relax and let the sexy music take over. Maybe even sip a nice glass of wine if you’re feeling it. I’m totally going to try this, I think it sounds super relaxing and also like a total turn-on. I’m guessing your boyfriend will think this is a great idea, too.
Prioritizing your sex life improves so many aspects of your life, so try and practice this stress-relieving routine often. Listen to Vixely’s Mood Music mix of our favorite, latest songs for the occasion on Spotify (see below for song list) and leave a comment with your favorite mood music to add to the list.
You can play these songs and more in Vixely’s iPad Magazine, with new music each issue from our music partner, Million Dollar Deli.
- “Un Simple Histoire” — Thievery Corporation
- “Your Hand in Mine” — Explosions In The Sky
- “Lime” – Francis and the Lights
- “Lovers’ Carvings (Chateaubriand Edit) — Bibio
- “Walk on By” — Noosa
- “Sunburn Modern” — Baio
- “Lights” — Ellie Goulding
- “Montezuma” — Fleet Foxes
- “Look at Where We Are” — Hot Chip
- “Petition” — Tennis
- “Hey Sparrow” — Peaking Lights
- “Open” — Rhye
- “Intro” — The xx
- “Slow It Down” — The Lumineers
For more sex and relationship advice from Kristen, check out Vixely’s YouTube channel for Kristen’s videos and visit her blog, BouquetsandBJs.com.
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