True Story: The Inspiration for Vixely’s “Dating Guide”

Dating is hard. While my mother’s sage wisdom that I am awesome and any guy would be lucky to date me has gotten me through a lot of the nasty, tangled mess that is dating, there are just some times I need more than her advice.

Let’s be honest, dating has changed. My mom never had to deal with online dating. My mom never even had to deal with being single at 28 (when she was 28 she was married and had me.) There was no such thing as a hook-up. There was definitely no such thing as Facebook or texting or email. There were two ways to make a date; asking someone out in person or asking them out on the phone. There were two ways to meet someone; meeting them in real life or a set-up.

All these new technologies have made what is already a sticky mess even more complicated. I just had so many questions: Where do you find guys? What about guys who actually want a girlfriend? What about guys of a quality/caliber worthy of my awesomeness? Should I try online dating? And if I do it, what do I write in that stupid, intimidating profile form? What picture should I use? And that guy I just met at the bar—How can I tell if he likes me? Should I just go ahead and ask him out?

And I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. These are basic, fundamental questions that almost every girl I know has had at some point or another. Yet what I couldn’t seem to find were good answers for them.

And I wanted answers. Hoo boy, did I want answers.

I was tired of advice that in the end only made me feel less in control of my dating life by telling me I apparently needed to change my personality just to play games or follow old-school “rules.” (Which seems to me to be exactly the trite, drippy missives slightly reworded in every Cosmo magazine published since I first picked one up in the early ‘90s.) So, after all our searching without a quality solution that fit our real lives, and in the truest spirit of Vixely, we decided to create our own.

With the help of the amazing Vixely team, we set out looking for advice on how to meet and date really great people.  We scoured the internet, best-selling books, and the most popular dating blogs. We drowned in a sea of advice. Then, before we even wrote anything down, we rigorously tested it. We turned ourselves into human guinea pigs sacrificed on the altar of the science (and art) of dating. Using our own experiences and the successes and failures of our endeavors, we cut through all the garbage out there (and there’s a lot) and what we finally put together might just be the definitive guide to how to meet great guys.

This is, after all, the essential first step. The foundation on which all other advice and research must be built. Because none of that other advice is worth a lick if you don’t have a really great guy in the first place. So, that’s where we started, helping you efficiently and effectively meet the men you want so you can date with confidence and success.

The Dating Guide: The Ultimate Guide to Meeting a Great Guy, Online Dating, Flirting and the First Date” is more than just another “pick-up” guide. The focus is on providing detailed, useful instructions on exactly what to do, tried and proven by Vixens just like you. So you can stop wondering how to meet guys and start dating them.

By now I’m sure you’re dying to know what’s inside this book. And I’m gonna tell you:

  1. Advice and exercises to find and showcase your best possible self, so you figure out exactly what you want and then go out and get it!
  2. Where to meet great guys and then getting them to ask you out
  3. How to make yourself approachable, flirt and make yourself irresistible
  4. Reviews and comparisons of the best and newest online dating sites and how to pick the right one for you
  5. How to write a great online dating profile that will get you dates
  6. Navigating the first date: what to wear, where to go and how to make him want more

Check out the full iBook description in iTunes and download the iBook today! Vixely is all about you, so PLEASE email your feedback on the book, too—we can’t wait to hear it.

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About Dena Stern

Dena has lived in San Francisco most of her life, leaving only to attend Tulane University in New Orleans and to travel in Europe, Israel and Central America. Hoping to change the world at a grassroots level, Dena worked at a large community center where she built a cutting edge arts and culture program, pioneered their first social media program, launched a group for teen girls to talk about sex in a safe environment, and managed fundraising to provide preschool scholarships. In her most recent role as the Managing Editor at Exercise.com, she developed and managed the creation of all content, including articles, programs and videos. She has been featured as a guest writer for several online publications, including 24 Hour Fitness Magazine and Active.com. She is also the author of fashion and lifestyle blog TheDameazon.com.

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