Reflect positively on yourself. (Photo by Serena Reynolds)
The Frisky recently published an article “The Sex In 7 Days Regimen.” Our hope, of course, was for something encouraging and motivating, like seven steps to help build your confidence so you can experience more pleasure in a sexual encounter!
Unfortunately, it is neither. What it is a seven-day regimen filled with dieting advice, more dieting advice, some skincare, and a little bit of exercise because, as the author put it, “While guys just change their T-shirt and they’re ready to go, I have to endure an entire prep-for-sex checklist.” Basically, wait a week to have sex until you look better. Like we said, hardly encouraging.
Among the highlights:
Approved:
Grapefruit: Grapefruit makes you full and is low in calories. Don’t put sugar on it, because then you will never again be able to eat it without sugar. Also, I don’t know about you, but when I eat too much sugar I turn into a bit$h.
Unapproved:
Bagels: Those damn bagels just go straight to your a** and thighs.
What To Drink:
Smooth Move Tea by Traditional Medicinals: I know it’s gross but it works. Two cups a day will leave you “depleted like a sorority girl” as my friend says.
And of course:
Caffeinated Eye Cream. I recommend Black Tea Age Delay Eye Cream by Fresh. If you’re broke, talk to a sales girl at Sephora, she will give you a jar with a free sample.
While it’s true that Sephora does give the best samples, the bulk of the advice appears to be how to make yourself “appear more toned” in seven days through a crash diet and a few exercises, so that you can be ready for sex. Is that what makes a girl ready for sex? “Depleted sorority girl” does not sound like a sexy way to look or feel to us.
The messages articles such as this send to women are discouraging. “Be self conscious about your body before you have sex.” ”Guys don’t have to do anything, but you need to change.” These attitudes create the kind of stress in the bedroom that make it harder for women to enjoy sex, which is actually the most important goal.
We think the best way to prepare yourself for sex is to do exactly the opposite of this advice. Spend the time preparing for sex just loving yourself. Appreciate how amazing you are, right now, without any changes. Learn what makes you feel good and how to express it. Make sure you know how lucky he is to get to have sex with you and that all you and he should be thinking about is how you can bring each other as much pleasure as possible. And do not stress about your body! Remember, confidence is sexy, and it comes from loving, not faulting, who you naturally are.
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